It probably won't be a simple software change you can do. Simply rewire the desired lighter plug to a unswitched fused circuit or just add one. It's literally 2 wires. Just trace the wires coming from the back of the lighter socket (these days more politically correctly called a 12 volt accessory outlet) but if you need wiring diagrams I can post them up.
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